Marriage Ought To Picture Christianity
Ephesians 5:23-25: For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
God wants marriage to be a picture of the relationship between Christ and His church, an earthly picture of a heavenly relationship, a physical picture of a spiritual relationship, a visible picture of an invisible relationship. Your marriage relationship might be the only Bible some people read.
1 Peter 3:1: Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
Christ is responsible FOR the church and the church is responsible TO Christ. Christ fulfills his responsibility perfectly. Try to imagine what a two-headed church would be like. Who could share and fulfill Christ*s responsibility?
If you have a two-headed marriage, at least one of you is disobeying God. The husband is responsible FOR the wife and the wife is responsible TO the husband. But their highest responsibility is to the Lord. Their responsibility to Him is to picture in their marriage the relationship between Christ and the church. For the husband the priorities are first being responsible to God, second being responsible for his wife and third being responsible to his wife. For the wife the priorities are first being responsible to God, second being responsible to her husband and third being responsible for her husband.
An irresponsible husband pictures an irresponsible God. A weak indecisive husband pictures a weak indecisive God. An uninformed and unprepared husband pictures an uninformed and unprepared God. A selfish husband pictures a selfish God. A lazy husband pictures a lazy God. An unjust husband pictures an unjust God. An unloving husband pictures an unloving God. A self-willed wife pictures a self-willed church. A defiant wife pictures a defiant church. A wife trying to control a husband pictures a church trying to control God. These things are uncomely, ungodly, unchristian and unbiblical.
I believe it is more difficult to be God-like than to be church-like. I am certain that some wives who read this will believe it is more difficult to be responsible to an imperfect husband. If they are not responsible to their imperfect husband they are not responsible to a perfect Lord.
Ephesians 5:22: Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
God created marriage for HIS purposes. He knew what He was doing. When we put our purposes above God*s purposes it is sin, not just in marriage but in any area of life. He knew how difficult it would be for husbands and He knew how difficult it would be for wives. He did not put anything in the Bible accidentally or mistakenly. He does not give anyone responsibilities that they cannot fulfill.
1 Corinthians 10:13: There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
Perhaps because it is the nature of both men and women to prefer not being responsible to anyone, the Bible devotes more space to telling the woman to be responsible to the man than telling the man to be responsible for his wife. Following are several scriptures dealing with marriage. If I have omitted any relevant ones please forgive and inform me.
Genesis 2:18: And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Proverbs 31:11: The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
1 Corinthians 7:2-5: Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
1 Corinthians 11:8-9: For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
Ephesians 5:33: Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Colossians 3:18-19: Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
Titus 2:3-5: The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
1 Peter 3:5-7: For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
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